Daddy's Little Bride


By Amy Eisinger from

Picking the big day can be a big deal, especially if you and your husband-to-be have hectic work schedules, family spread across the country, and friends who are also getting hitched around the same time. But don’t worry, there are some easy ways to cut down on your choices and still pick a day that’s meaningful for you both (not to mention practical!).


What’s your vision of the perfect day? Do you exchange vows on the beach wearing only a white bikini? Or do you say “I dos” at the church you’ve grown up in with a cathedral-length train on your gown and ten bridesmaids at your side? You’ve got plenty of time to decide on the near-infinite number of wedding details but, for now, just focus on the overall feel. The time of year you pick will also dictate your style. If you’ve always dreamt of crystal chandeliers, fireplaces, and long burgundy, bridesmaid dresses, then an intimate, late fall or winter wedding fits you to a tee. On the other hand, if the idea of fresh peonies, gingham, and straw hats make you giddy, then a rustic-themed summer weddingmight be the perfect solution. Popular venues can book years in advance, so if you’ve already got a location and style in mind, immediately check in with them to find out which dates are available.


Weddings make up a multi-billion dollar industry, but that doesn’t mean you need to max out your credit cards in order to have a memorable day. From the start, figure out what’s within your budget and prioritize how you’d like to spend your money. Friday and Saturday nights are generally the most expensive times to get married, so you can save by booking on any other day of the week. Often, venues have a minimum number of guests required, so your budget will not only help you pick your venue, but it can dictate dates and let you plan for how large the wedding will be.


Wouldn’t dream of walking down the aisle unless your cousin, BFF, or brother was there to see it? Then give them the VIP treatment and ask if they’re available before you set the date in stone. Just remember, it’s not a free-for-all of opinions. Only the most important people should be consulted about their availability prior to picking the date. After you’ve asked them, consider your options and confer with your fiance. It may be a process you’ll need to repeat a few times, but at least when you finally arrive at a date, you will already know the most important people will be there.


Let’s just pretend that money is no object, your dream venue is up for grabs, and all of your family and friends are available at your whim. Then pick a day that’s significant to you and your fiance. You can get married on the anniversary of your first date, your first kiss or, for another twist, the day your parents or grandparents wed. Picking a holiday is also growing in popularity, especially if your favorite childhood memories are from Thanksgiving or Christmas.


If you’re clueless about when the wedding should be, start by eliminating all of the days it can’t be. Super Bowl Sunday, Daylight Savings (forward or back), and weekends that include Friday the 13th — these might be some of the first to cross off your list. Then ask, are you a bridesmaid in another wedding? You probably don’t want to pick the same month, especially if that bride is in your wedding party too. Lastly, if you have the type of job that gets hectic during certain times of the year (for instance, accountants during tax season or florists around Mother’s Day), you will probably want to avoid picking those times too. You may also want to consult the Farmer’s Almanac for weather, since it’s about 75% accurate even if you check it a year in advance. Remember, the day should be all about the start of your new life together, so make sure it isn’t clouded by anything else.